My closest friend went through the most heart-wrenching amount of abuse in her life, and it made me realize how fickle and uncertain life can be, but at the same time how very important it is for us, especially us women, to raise our voices.
I have seen abuse in the most obscure places; I’ve seen it happen under ‘happily sheltered’ rooftops and in the eyes of well-versed spouses. The pain isn’t physical and the consequences aren’t bruises you can pity with your eyes. Abuse transcends to withering one’s mind, stripping off the sanity and then telling one to pretend it is okay.
Michelle Obama was correct when she said, “people often won’t take our word over his.”
Domestic abuse extends from verbal abuse and turns into violence. While physical injuries may seem to be the most clear-cut harm, the psychological consequences of domestic abuse are poignant. Emotionally abusive experiences and relationships wreck one’s self-esteem, lead to perturbation, depression and a constant state of apprehension making the victim feel utterly helpless and alone. No one deserves to endure this sort of pain—and the first step to standing up and breaking free is recognizing when a situation is abusive. Once people acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, they can get the help they need. However, there’s still a long way to go.
Where we have people like Sharmeen Obaid working tirelessly to shed light on the issue, the statistics are still daunting. We live in a time where Domestic Abuse will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime. Which leads to, on an average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.
We’d like to believe that violence cannot permeate our houses, but our roots are stained in it, self-loathe sprouting like a fruit, where it will never rot too far from its tree.
It is time to stand up and raise our voices, it is time to protect the victim rather than the abuser. #breathesilence